Today, I got a really long message from a coach who has been watching our YouTube channel on a consistent basis and he reached out to me with a very brave question.
This coach asked me:
"Hey Ben, I want to start a business but my wife doesn't feel like that's gonna be a good move for us right now. At the moment we both have a job and I think she's worried about not being stable if I go full time into this business and she's unsure that this is something I should do Can you give me some advice on what I should do?."
Now, the way my mind operates is not going to be the same as everyone else but here's what I'll tell you because I am a married man and my wife does not work. In our relationship I am the sole provider and I told my wife before we got married that's exactly what's going to happen.
However, in order for this to work in our relationship I had to be very intentional with how my business was operating on a daily basis. So, to answer this coaches question it has to be the same for any person who wants a business to be successful.
If you are currently married and your wife doesn't believe in what you want to do then this might be as a result of something that may have happened in the past with a previous idea you had.
For example, if you're the type of person who doesn't follow through on what you say you will do or you might have a bunch of ideas but you never execute then maybe this is the reason why your wife isn't completely behind your decision. It's not because she doesn't want you to fail but because she knows you won't be completely committed to the decisions you make.
When this happens the first thing you must do is sit down with your wife and have a conversation about this issue to find out exactly why it is she doesn't have a firm belief in what you want to do. When you do this it will give you way more confidence because you and your wife will both be on the same page.
If you feel called to do something you should do it and as a man you should lead in your marriage and you won't be able to do that if your wife doesn't completely believe in you.
When you really want to go after something I feel like you need to go after it but it's not going to work the way it should if you have someone who you're married to and they don't believe in you.
At the end of the day when you start your business you'll be working on it every day and if your wife isn't behind your idea then you'll always have this this negative force pushing against you. Instead, you need to have your wife aligned with what you're doing and that's only going to work if you are communicating better because at the end of the day it all comes down to sales. When you want to convince someone to do something, or to believe in your idea you have to sell those ideas to the person in order to convince them to take action.
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Speak to you later,